The Perks of Having a Depression Buddy

The Law of Attraction says you attract what you put out into the world.

So when you’re dealing with mental health demons, you attract other people who are dealing with them, too.

While a good amount of those people can be toxic, sometimes you get lucky and stumble across someone that truly understands what it’s like to live inside depression.

Before them, you thought you’d never be close to anyone again.

But then they surprise you.

Within weeks the level of comfort and ease around them is magical.

Instead of taking you further down the rabbit hole or trying to lift you up, they are willing to meet you exactly where you are.

You lay next to them all day and forget that most of the world exists.

They don’t judge or diagnose or look down on you.

Instead, they sit with you talking about nothing or everything, in complete silence or with Netflix in the background.

  • They listen.
  • They ask questions.

And for the first time, you feel heard.

When you’re in their presence you fall in and out of introversion. Feeling like you’re alone and not alone, all at the same time.

Your buddy becomes a part of your coping strategy.

They become your best friend.

But depression is a jealous bitch who always needs to come first.

And you have thoughts telling you that you need to overcome your demons on your own.

But the perks of your depression buddy are endless.

They bring hope, love, forgiveness and understanding  when you need it most.

So remember, nothing in this world was ever accomplished alone.

Choose your friend over depression. And maybe, just maybe, the days of feeling lost and lonely will disappear, slowly and then all at once.

-(Rule)

All I’ve Ever Wanted is to be an ORIGINAL.

Yeah, that’s right.

I never wanted to be a doctor or lawyer or teacher or astronaut or rocket scientist.

I just wanted to grow up to be different.

Think different.

Act different.

I wanted to be an Original

Break the status quo.

  1. Choose my own path.
  2. Live my own dream.
  3. Stay inside the lines long enough to gain their trust.
  4. Then start wrecking havoc.

I wanted to be…

  • A misfit.
  • A rebel.
  • A troublemaker.

 

I never quite wanted to fit in.

But then I turned 23. And now I’m expected to grow up and get a high paying job. Buy a car and a house. And work every day for the rest of forever.

But what so original about that?

-(Rule)

Are you going to Buy In or Sell Out?

For those of you who never feel like you belong….

As you fall into your 1,000th existential crisis, you realize that you have to make a choice.

You’ve just graduated high school/college/grad school, and you’ve put it off for as long as you could. But now you have to decide.

Are you going to buy in, or are you going sell out?

If you’re like me and you never quite feel like you fit in to any school or company or job, then the thought scares the hell out of you.

So let me break it down.

Buy in (verb): You convince yourself that the company/industry/job is a great opportunity. Even if its not perfect, its doable. You tell yourself everyday that you made the right choice until you believe it.

Sell out (verb): You accept that you’re never going to have the career you want so you might as well sell yourself to the highest bidder. You forget about ever finding something that fits and embrace the omnipresent consumption culture.

This weekend, at a conference, full of people that are supposed to be the best and brightest in the field I study, I was told I had to choose.

For someone that never identifies  with an organization and always has one foot out the door, I froze.

The thought of living in a perpetual, proverbial pissing contest with all my peers makes me squirm.

How can I buy into a system that perpetuates and privileges everything that I hate?

How can I sell out when this is the one and only life that I will ever get to live?

But, sooner or later you have to choose.

  • You are expected to shut your voice off and let yourself go.
  • You are expected to get in line and follow the other sheep.
  • You are expected to join the rat race.
  • You are expected to crave money, status, power and validation over everything else.
  • You are expected to buy in or sell out.

So which will it be?

Choose wisely.

-(Rule)