Dear Future Me,
If there is one piece of advice I could give you that surpasses everything else I know it’s …don’t take it personal.
I know you’re probably rolling your eyes right now because everything feels personal, but hear me out.
Every time you’re over looked for a job….
Every time your crush chooses someone else…
Every time someone is rude to you for no apparent reason…
Every time someone ignores you…
Every time someone breaks plans with you for a seemingly made up reason…
Every time someone hurts your feelings…
Every time the world seems to be falling a part…
Don’t take it personal.
You will deal with all of these situations thousands of times over in your lifetime. If you take them personally, like most people do, it will drain you of everything that matters.
You will lose trust, love, and hope in people.
It will feel like the universe is out to get you. And, hey, maybe it is.
But if you allow yourself to take it personally, there will be nothing left.
You have spent hundreds of thousands of hours replaying conversations and rereading text messages, trying to figure out what you did wrong.
Instead, take a deep breath… and… let it go.
Go to the nearest closet or car and cry, shout, kick, and scream. But, when you’re done, and all the tears have dried, remind yourself…
Everything someone does is all because of who they are NOT because of who you are.
You cannot control people.
You cannot change people.
And it’s not your job to.
So the next time someone reacts in a way that hurts you, don’t take it personal.
Life is too short.